Why do people limit their options and build lives that they cant live?

It has came aware to me recently that some of my friends are building lives that they cant live. Rather, they built a life for themselves that they could not continue. Now, many people would condemn my friends for their failure; but is that failure really their fault? Everyone grows up and we make stupid mistakes, but we are fooling ourselves to believe that God is going to give us the strength to do something that he did not intend for us to do. Many times, we as humans, decide a path to take our life down but do not explore the options that we have. Christians specifically do this when we date without making preparations for marriage. Having premarital sex is just one of many ways we make lives that we cant live. My personal favorite is the crash diets; people starve themselves for weeks only to breakdown and start all over again. In my life I have needed God's help and good guidance from friends to make good decisions that I could live with. Thats why both my wife and myself married as virgins (we dated for 6 months before I proposed and waited for 4 more before we got married). Both my wife and myself realize that we could not have waited any longer to be married; so we got married. Why do people limit their options and build lives that they cant live?

"Power is defined by choices [options]. Often the best way to enhace one's power is to develop better choices." Bernard Mayer.

Technology and God?

A lot has happened in my life lately. I just got the internet in my home!! I have got a new puppy. I have a new 2008 Nissan Sentra!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have been learning tons about technology and business and God!!!!!!! Actually, I believe that the more I learn the stronger all of the other areas in my life are. I believe the better I am at business and using technology, the better I will be at doing God's work (ie spreading the Kingdom of God).
My current job, GeekSquad Mission Control, I get to do basic troubleshooting and selling people services. I get to fix people's computer every day and help them do what they do better. Today, I helped a Pastor get setup using a word processor. The pastor was able to use the software to write sermenetts and to send his fiancee help with her homework. The pastor was very happy and said that I had done him a big favor. I really hope that I can be use by God to bring about his kingdom in a substantial manner. I know that this pastor was just one of many people that I have helped to do God's will more. I just need to figure out create more signposts pointing to the coming Kingdom. Technology is a very good beginning to this goal.